All Skate: What Do You Want to Know?

Well, today is Wednesday…and it’s occured to me…here I am, every day, posting away…how rude of me….I’ve never asked YOU what you’d like to see.

What do you want to know or discuss here? Jump in…it’s an “all skate” so it’s your choice! (sorry, if you don’t know what “all skate” means, you probably didn’t grow up having your birthday parties at roller rinks in the 80’s….consider the term an equal opportunity invitation) 🙂

Anyway, I’d really like to hear from you all so I can put together a series of posts that do the following:

  • answer questions you might have (I’d even be willing to research the answer for you)
  • attempt my best advice to a dilemma you’re facing
  • tackle topics of interest to you

So, tell me what intrigues, puzzles, annoys and frustrates you about singledom, dating, marriage or your partner….

OK, OK. In an effort not to be a total blog slacker today (LOL)…here are some interesting tidbits for you to chew on.  OKCupid analyzed 500,000 introduction emails to see what most worked to get a positive response.  Here are their findings:

  1. Be Literate – text speak, bad grammar/spelling are a huge turnoff. Don’t be a lazy writer.
  2. Avoid Physical Compliments – this has been found to be a turnoff for both sexes (interestingly).  General compliments work a whole lot better (fascinating, cool, nice, awesome…were examples of compliments that were well received.)
  3. Use An Unusual Greeting – don’t just say “hi” or “hello”…boring!  Remember that this is really the first impression that you can make. Their research found that a clever start worked best or better yet, skip a greeting and just launch into a reply to their profile.
  4. Show that You’ve Actually Read Their Profile – you can totally tell when someone is writing to you based solely from your photo…people like to feel that there’s more of a connection than attraction to a photo. So, react to what’s in their profile, you will get a much better response.
  5. Guys, Write Humbly – women responded more often to men who represented themselves as more humble, rather than cocky or super confident. Strike the right balance though…whether a man or a woman, you NEVER want to come across as desperate (it makes people run away screaming).

So, back to my initial question….what’s on your mind?

Photo credit: smaedli’s Flickr photostream


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I'm a married publicist who holds a Master's degree in psychology, with a concentration in Marriage and Family Therapy. I'd like to make the world a better relationship at a time.

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5 Comments on “All Skate: What Do You Want to Know?”

  1. Caroline
    December 14, 2011 at 1:17 pm #

    I’d love an article on being happily married versus happily single … what are the pros and cons with each?

    • December 16, 2011 at 2:54 am #

      Hi Caroline,
      Great idea! I’ll get to work on that…maybe something for next week? Thanks!! 🙂

  2. December 14, 2011 at 9:45 pm #

    Damn! I remember those ‘skates!”
    (of online dating) I wish I knew what the rules were, if there actually are any, or at least what is the norm.

    What if you lived, say 5 hours away from someone? Would it be the more the man’s responsibility to coordinate a meeting providing he had a car? If he doesn’t make a move to organise within a certain time frame – when a good time to bail?
    Would a person correspond via email for a period of time THEN graduate to phone and skype? or just jump to the meeting? can you tell i am confused?

  3. December 16, 2011 at 2:56 am #

    Cakes! Thanks for commenting!

    I’d love to do a post on the rules for online dating. I’ll start looking into that.
    Did you know that the women who initially wrote a book called “The Rules” also published a book outlining their rules for online dating. I’ve paged through it and it’s really great! Might be worth taking a look here at what they recommend…

    Great idea!

    • December 16, 2011 at 9:31 am #

      I didn’t know that. thanks!!! I should probably read both of those!

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